Risky Business
April 10, 2010
Well, i just had the…shock of my life.
Friends I’ve met on the internet, who have been swingers for YEARS and YEARS just split up. They told me this AFTER I told them how my husband and I just started into the lifestyle ourselves. Funny.
A few months ago they were encouraging us 100% to get into the lifestyle. Tonight he told me 100% to NOT do it….ever ever ever.
They tried to quit and realized they had nothing left in their marriage. They were addicted to the swinging and it was all they had.
I’m scared now.
These people own swinging clubs, were writing a book, were active swingers for years and years and years. They started out just like my husband and I. Completely in love and wanting some spice.
So, the day before I have an amazing 4some planned, I am now shocked…scared…confused but also feeling like…can we still do this anyway?
Am I kidding myself that Hubby and I are invincible? No…I don’t think we are that. I think we’re smart, I think we’re in love… I think I think I think.
We’ve already said we don’t want to be promiscuous. Those people had a new couple in their home every weekend it seemed. They just fucked whoever.
To me, I think this lifestyle would eventually dry out…thus far I see so much substance and love in my marriage…I don’t NEED to be in an open marriage. I am perfectly happy to call it off at any given moment and move on with life. The only thing I need is the three main men in my life. My kids and my husband.
I just want to gain some sexual experience and have some sexy times with my husband. Things to look back on when we’re old and think “we were so wild”.
This is seemingly risky business…riskier than I thought. It’s not WORTH risking anything…but is it risky for US? Am I kidding myself?
Well…I wish I had that conversation with them in a few weeks…not today. Tonight I’m going away with my husband for the weekend. We’re going to meet up with a couple and fool around…no sex still…just fooling around. But now is that ruined for me? I don’t wanna discuss this with Hubby tonight…i just want to have fun.
I just want to meet up with that boy next Friday for a good time. I guess not now…not without discussion. Boy…we need a talk.
April 10, 2010 at 3:48 am
A talk is needed.
There is no way I can give unbiased advice or commentary. I have a ventured interest in whatever you decide.
Just have one thing to say: years and years? Most marriages don’t last years and years anymore. I’m surprised to even see a couple last that long if they were consumed by anything – be it sexual escapades or money or whatever.
June 19, 2010 at 4:53 am
Allow me to offer my two cents, i grew up in an environment very conducive to swingers. I new many couples that were swingers and couples that had thirds and every variation in the theme. Almost without fail over the years i saw each couple break up. Sex is a Strong connection between two people, as the saying goes nothing gets you over the last partner like the next one… Eventually over time one of you will find a connection with someone else or simply realize that the connection the two of you had has been so diluted that it is gone