Sober
April 5, 2010
If I could give one piece of advise to a couple who’s embarking on the journey of an open relationship, had talked through all the details and is now ready to go, it would be…
Stay sober.
Especially if there’s still limits within the open relationship, like no sex allowed or no oral sex. If there are limits set, then people need to stay sober.
How do I know this? Well….I didn’t stay sober.
I was absolutely smashed this saturday and my own limits were crossed, not my husbands. Now I don’t feel really bad about it, I mean…I knew I was going to have intercourse with this person sooner or later…and lately I’ve been wanting it more sooner than later. But still…I hardly even remember the sex let alone how it all even happened.
His wife also put it a good way “I feel less like an idiot after if I stay sober”. It’s true. I have no idea how good I was, I could have laid there and drooled for all I know. I seriously have no clue.
My intention is never to get THAT smashed. It was an empty stomach with wine and gin and 420 and…ya…bad combo. I feel like an idiot because I dunno if I was an idiot the whole time or not. I do remember a short time in the shower and an attempt to go for a walk outside with nothing on at all….ya that’s how drunk I was.
For my own life, for this lifestyle, for my health, for my bank account…I want to stop drinking so much. I make too many mistakes, it’s getting too easy to get hammered and feel fine the next day. A few drinks on a full stomach to loosen you up is one thing…but I only want to be a little bit loose…not all the way loose.
Here’s to not making that mistake again…sober swinging is smart swinging. You’re likely to cross too many lines and…you’re just not going to be as fun in bed…I’m pretty sure I didn’t give my best performance that night.
I soooo need a sober re-do.
